Brandy Nevett
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Re:J.B. Mullins - 2007/08/30 06:28
Ohhh your Dad was one of my most favorite people in the whole wide world!!! Their house was always one of the first I went to on Halloween cause I just loved them so much! He was one of the folks I just LOVED to talk to at church! And that's exactly what they're doing right now. They're sitting there talking, and knowing them, they have been since Grandpa got there! haha
*hugs you tight*
Robyn and Chad,
You're so very right in all that. We've been going through pictures, and talking about it as much as she's comfortable, but I've also made it a point not to hide my grieving from her. She seems to find it comforting to know just how much it hurts us all to have lost him. That he meant as much to us, and to the whole town for the most part, that he meant to her. He took such wonderful care of her, and he loved every second of it. I told her he was the most wonderful man I'd ever met, and I'd spent my whole adult life looking for someone just like him. And that I envied her, cause I think she got the last one of his breed. She laughed. Which made me very happy.
The thing that's hurting her so much now, is the little jabs she gets when she's NOT thinking about it. Today we were looking through some old (and I mean old!) pictures and there was one of my grandpa's brother whom we lost last year. And she just burst into tears. I asked her what was going on, she said "I just thought to myself that I'd keep this out to show Grandpa when he got home" Little things like that, when the realization comes up when you don't expect it. As she gets more comfortable with the idea she'll be better. And she's much more positive today. We're starting to get back into a routine, and we're just doing what she wants to do and it seems to really help.
The big problem with the traveling is this: Grandma cannot drive, because she's never ever had a driver's license, and she can't really get in and out of the car without help. So she has to really be helped everywhere she has to go. I can't even take her to her Dr. appts because I can't carry Abby and push her wheelchair too. And she has neuropathy in her hands so much she can't really hold her much either. But we're working on things, and they ARE getting better. It's a one day (and sometimes one minute) at a time process. She would LOVE to be able to get out and do whatever she wanted, but she physically can't. So I told her whenever she wanted to take a day drive all she has to do is say the word. And as long as I have enough notice, Kory can go to Boys & Girls club (he's a Jr. Staff Member there anyway) and the girls can ride home with our next door neighbor till we get back anyway. Just whenever and where ever she wants to go. So she has some hope for the future.
My house looks like a tornado ripped through it cause I'm not here except to sleep most days, but we'll figure things out. I see some hope in the end. She doesn't look as much like she's just giving up. We'll see what the future holds. I'm starting to really believe that she'll make it through this. Thank you all for your support. It helps to hear what I tell her all day every day told to me. Because at the end of the day, sometimes it's hard to remember that we're stronger than we think we are.
*leaves big huge hugs*
Post edited by: Missy Jo, at: 2007/08/30 06:29
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